Last night Mistress had me wear a nighty. She told me a few hours before bed that I had to wear one and she didn't remind me at bedtime. Thank goodness I remembered on my own.
There is no way in the word for me to sleep in a nighty and not think about very nasty stuff. First, putting it on in front of her is humiliating. Humiliation is good to put me in a certain space. Then every time I wake up, I have to situate the nighty, and that in turn makes me think about what a slut I am and the things I love to do when I am in this frame of mind.
That got me thinking about a blog post I found the other day. Below is what I edged to today. They are some highlights from this page
http://girlscanbesocruel.com/Overview.html
3. NAKED DAYS. About 10 days per month I use my power as
"Queen" to declare it a "Naked Day." What that means to my slave is that he is
naked all day that he is home. Despite
the fact that we have been married for many years, he finds being naked in
front of me to be quite humbling. At the
end of each Naked Day I allow him an orgasm as a reward for all of his hard
work.. When he orgasms at the end of a
Naked Day, it is always through some form of humiliating masturbation.
5. HIGH PROTOCOLS.
I never really felt drawn to "High Protocols" like a lot of
Doms however I do insist on certain rituals that keep him in his place and on
his toes. My goal is to keep him in sub space and strip him of his dignity
because I know that is what he wants.
6. BE
YOURSELF. At first I tried to be like
what I thought a Dominatrix was supposed to be and it never felt right. I am not into the Dominatrix thing at
all. That's just not me. I'm a demure girl from a small town in Rhode
Island. Whatever you do create a style that you feel completely comfortable
in. My style is quiet but very
strict. I never raise my voice. It took some practice and research however
trust me when I say that I can be the cruelest of girls ever! He has told me
that in the times I have pushed him beyond his comfort zone and made him regret
that he was in this predicament that these later became his best masturbatory
fantasies.
7.
MASTURBATION. If it were up to
him he would have two orgasms every day.
I use masturbation as his primary reward for being a good slave.
Masturbation requires no work on my part and it is very embarrassing for
him. At the end of each Naked Day, I
never offer to let him masturbate. Instead if he wants to cum, which of course
he does, he must ask permission. When I am done with his service and nakedness
I will tell him that I am ready for him to get showered, get dressed and return
to his role as my husband. I don't say
it however if he wants to cum which he always does, he must kneel in front of
me and with flaming red cheeks he says, "Mistress, may I please
masturbate?" I give him permission
to masturbate every time or he seems unable to function back in the role of my
husband until he cums so I never withhold orgasm as a punishment or he drives
me crazy.
8. BACK UP
TASKS. Some days he has more time than
other days. In the Slave Journal I
maintain a list of things that need to be done around the house, but not
necessarily that day. Thus, when he has
extra time he can complete some of the optional tasks. If he does something that really pleases me
in a timely fashion, he gets a pleasure reward.
If too much time goes by and I notice he has not completed an
undesirable task, he is punished with work that is twice as hard as the
original task that he procrastinated with.
9. BREATHERS. Breathers are critical to our
Dominance/Submissive (D/s) dynamics. I
call them "Breathers" because they are a breather for me in terms of
dominant energy. I use Breathers when he
wants to play and I don't have the time, interest, or energy. I use Breathers sometimes when he is horny
and I am on my period. I also use
Breathers on Naked days as a reward of sorts.
Breathers are ways for him to suffer for up to two hours but can never
take more than 10 minutes of my time.
Like many submissives that I have read about, my husband has a very rich
fantasy life. I gave him one week to
come up with a list of 25 tasks that he would find to be humiliating. The Breathers are kept in an envelope in the
back of the Slave Journal. On Naked
Days, or sometimes when he has indicated that he wants to play that night, I
draw a "Breather" from the envelop and make him perform the Breather
while I read, nap, eat ice cream or watch TV.
I generally pick the Breather from the envelope a day or two before I am
going to actually use it so I can let it bake in my brain as I always try to
expand on his fantasy so it has my own flavor to it.
10. PUNISHMENT. In
order for the D/s scenes and lifestyle to be real he must have the fear of
genuine punishment looming over his head.
Let's say he has done a good job cleaning the house but not a great job,
I punish him. Let's say he had a bad attitude, I punish him. Let's say he forgets to do something, I
punish him. I love to find reasons to punish him. Here are some of the methods I use that have
worked really well for me. A) I make him bend over, touch his toes and I
paddle him with a ping pong paddle. I
reserve this for serious infractions and I give him very hard swats. He hates
it and therefore rarely makes the same mistake twice. B) We
have a tool shed that is as hot as a sweat box on some days. I banish him to the shed, tie his wrists to
the rafters and leave him in the dark for one hour with an overly ripe banana
smeared all over his groin, ass and underarms as bait for the flies! D) I
think this is a fairly common punishment based on things I have seen in fem dom
chat rooms, however making him write punishment lines is very effective, i.e.,
"I promise to put the toilet seat down." My twist on this is that I have him use the
toilet as a table
