There is no way in the word for me to sleep in a nighty and not think about very nasty stuff. First, putting it on in front of her is humiliating. Humiliation is good to put me in a certain space. Then every time I wake up, I have to situate the nighty, and that in turn makes me think about what a slut I am and the things I love to do when I am in this frame of mind.
That got me thinking about a blog post I found the other day. Below is what I edged to today. They are some highlights from this page http://girlscanbesocruel.com/Overview.html
3. NAKED DAYS. About 10 days per month I use my power as "Queen" to declare it a "Naked Day." What that means to my slave is that he is naked all day that he is home. Despite the fact that we have been married for many years, he finds being naked in front of me to be quite humbling. At the end of each Naked Day I allow him an orgasm as a reward for all of his hard work.. When he orgasms at the end of a Naked Day, it is always through some form of humiliating masturbation.
5. HIGH PROTOCOLS. I never really felt drawn to "High Protocols" like a lot of Doms however I do insist on certain rituals that keep him in his place and on his toes. My goal is to keep him in sub space and strip him of his dignity because I know that is what he wants.
6. BE YOURSELF. At first I tried to be like what I thought a Dominatrix was supposed to be and it never felt right. I am not into the Dominatrix thing at all. That's just not me. I'm a demure girl from a small town in Rhode Island. Whatever you do create a style that you feel completely comfortable in. My style is quiet but very strict. I never raise my voice. It took some practice and research however trust me when I say that I can be the cruelest of girls ever! He has told me that in the times I have pushed him beyond his comfort zone and made him regret that he was in this predicament that these later became his best masturbatory fantasies.
7. MASTURBATION. If it were up to him he would have two orgasms every day. I use masturbation as his primary reward for being a good slave. Masturbation requires no work on my part and it is very embarrassing for him. At the end of each Naked Day, I never offer to let him masturbate. Instead if he wants to cum, which of course he does, he must ask permission. When I am done with his service and nakedness I will tell him that I am ready for him to get showered, get dressed and return to his role as my husband. I don't say it however if he wants to cum which he always does, he must kneel in front of me and with flaming red cheeks he says, "Mistress, may I please masturbate?" I give him permission to masturbate every time or he seems unable to function back in the role of my husband until he cums so I never withhold orgasm as a punishment or he drives me crazy.
8. BACK UP TASKS. Some days he has more time than other days. In the Slave Journal I maintain a list of things that need to be done around the house, but not necessarily that day. Thus, when he has extra time he can complete some of the optional tasks. If he does something that really pleases me in a timely fashion, he gets a pleasure reward. If too much time goes by and I notice he has not completed an undesirable task, he is punished with work that is twice as hard as the original task that he procrastinated with.
9. BREATHERS. Breathers are critical to our Dominance/Submissive (D/s) dynamics. I call them "Breathers" because they are a breather for me in terms of dominant energy. I use Breathers when he wants to play and I don't have the time, interest, or energy. I use Breathers sometimes when he is horny and I am on my period. I also use Breathers on Naked days as a reward of sorts. Breathers are ways for him to suffer for up to two hours but can never take more than 10 minutes of my time. Like many submissives that I have read about, my husband has a very rich fantasy life. I gave him one week to come up with a list of 25 tasks that he would find to be humiliating. The Breathers are kept in an envelope in the back of the Slave Journal. On Naked Days, or sometimes when he has indicated that he wants to play that night, I draw a "Breather" from the envelop and make him perform the Breather while I read, nap, eat ice cream or watch TV. I generally pick the Breather from the envelope a day or two before I am going to actually use it so I can let it bake in my brain as I always try to expand on his fantasy so it has my own flavor to it.
10. PUNISHMENT. In order for the D/s scenes and lifestyle to be real he must have the fear of genuine punishment looming over his head. Let's say he has done a good job cleaning the house but not a great job, I punish him. Let's say he had a bad attitude, I punish him. Let's say he forgets to do something, I punish him. I love to find reasons to punish him. Here are some of the methods I use that have worked really well for me. A) I make him bend over, touch his toes and I paddle him with a ping pong paddle. I reserve this for serious infractions and I give him very hard swats. He hates it and therefore rarely makes the same mistake twice. B) We have a tool shed that is as hot as a sweat box on some days. I banish him to the shed, tie his wrists to the rafters and leave him in the dark for one hour with an overly ripe banana smeared all over his groin, ass and underarms as bait for the flies! D) I think this is a fairly common punishment based on things I have seen in fem dom chat rooms, however making him write punishment lines is very effective, i.e., "I promise to put the toilet seat down." My twist on this is that I have him use the toilet as a table