Other D/s Couples

One of the best things about the internet is that you quickly learn that you are more normal than society wants you to realize.  I was into bondage before I knew there was such a thing.  I loved being the tied up kid whenever we played cops and robbers, cowboys and indians or any other game kids play that require someone to be a captive.  I especially liked it when my best friends older sisters "captured" me.  I had long detailed fantasies about being the popular girls' slave in junior high and the nasty things they would make me do.  As an adult, I obviously knew about BDSM, but to get any new information I had to go to adult bookstores in the bad part of town.  Just walking into those places made me feel dirty.  Then came 1996 and consistent internet access.  There was a whole world of D/s, all from the comfort of your own home.  I quickly learned that millions of people around the world shared my interest.  Being a guy that occasionally like to wear girls underwear or tied tied up and humiliated was no longer a bad thing.  To be fair, I still hide it as society really doesn't allow us to "some out", but I'm OK with that as I don't have any need for people who know me to know me any more than they already do.

That brings me to this posts topic.  Other D/s couples and what I like about them.  Here are some in no particular order.

Strict Julie Spanks! - Recently this is the one I am drawn to the most.  What I like, she gives her husband spankings that scare me just reading about them, but I still find them super hot.  She also finds ways to bring women into their house for the sole purpose of humiliating her man.  Some of my favorite posts are.  

Beating your man properly

Advice for Wives

Husband Severely Switched by Trainer

Husband wants to be a Girl for the Night

Bra Fitting at Victoria's Secret!

femdom101 - This one sticks in my mind for 2 reasons.  1.  She found out about Femdom unintentionally.  She found out her husband had been visiting a pro-domme.  While she naturally freaked out, she also wanted to find out why.  It turns out it wasn't about being with other women, it was about being controlled.  She befriended the pro-domme and learned what made him tick.  the second reason is the "cage time" she instituted while she was learning.  It allowed him to submit and her to know she had full control.  The ides of being in a cage turns me on and scares me.

In The Beginning-The Kennel

Real Life Female Domination - This one gets me hot for one reason.  She's a total bitch to her boy.  She frequently ties him down and sets up a long and torturous session but for the most part requires little effort on her part.  She uses it to get some "alone time".  For most of these sessions she puts earplugs or headphones in his ears.  She blindfolds him before putting a mask on him.  She gags him with a funnel in his mouth that she either spits in or puts ice in (the ice is usually made from her piss and/or his cum).  She then reads books and watches TV shows and she uses a baby monitor to keep an eye on his safety.  Usually once or twice an hour she will edge him, or hurt his cock with a ruler or icy-hot on his cock and balls (a very painful and long lasting punishment) or nettles (something Mistress had me try on my cock at a fetish event we attended.  For 1-4 hours his only world is the pain she puts him through and the taste of her piss.  He can't see, hear or feel anything other than her bitchiness.  Very scary, and very hot.

Yet More TSD bondage

Making sensory deprivation worse!

The Big 6 O

More Sensory Deprivation

This girl's weblog - of life married to a deviously dominant madman! - This one is with a female submissive, but I like it because of how elaborate their setups are.  

Z is for . . .

Deviant Display - Just hot with their outfits and their exhibitionism.  That and he seems locked in chastity quite a bit.

sailorsub asked: How do You get Your pet to leak so much?

Caged cock whore.

The family dog

Barefoot Princess - I can't vouch or their relationship, but I believe they are in one as he has been in all of her videos for years.  The reason I like her videos is due to how "mean" she is to her boy.  He is usually tied uncomfortably. If he comes without permission she abuses his balls after he cums and laughs the whole time.  She squeezes and kneads his balls while at the same time stroking his cock.  And lastly she makes him eat lots and lots of cum.  My favorite scene is where she has him in a cage.  His condom covered cock sticks out one end and his head is at the other end with a funnel in his mouth.  She uses a Hitachi to get him to cum in the condom and once he comes she dumps it in the funnel.  Very hot.

About to cum in condom and then eat it

Another cum eating scene

What will she do with that funnel?

A great example of holding a coin up with his nose.  His back will hurt soon.

 There are a lot of other blogs out there with great ideas, but I like these because they seem to be in loving relationships and make my weirdness seem a little more normal.

Today's mood

Instead of posting words, I am posting pics that hit my buttons this morning.

 
 

 

 

 

 
 









Ladies, a gurl told me something very similiar to this once, silly thing…..this made me realise the importance of psychological play in her training……something I’ve embraced with a passion ever since…. the mind is far more powerful than any physical actions… A lesson well learned.

Today's Edge - Very Mean Mistress Blog

In my post the other day regarding one Mistress giving advice to the other, I have been reading some of the more experienced Mistress's posts.  While a lot of what she does is extreme (in my mind), the fact she gets off on it so much is a very hot concept to me.  The meaner she is, the stronger HER orgasms are.  I edged to the posts below.  Some quick quotes that stuck in my mind and links to the full post afterward.

Subjecting him to hours of sensory deprivation bondage on the BDSM gynecological style bed –with visits for me, every hour or so, to tease and edge and deny, use my smacking ruler

http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/2013/07/28/further-small-increments-of-bitchyness/


Had him in his shortened maid’s outfit with his suspenders and long cream woolen socks, (see previous post), to make my lunch, clean the bathroom, do a huge pile of ironing, prepare the evening meal. Caned him several times for infringements.

http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/2013/10/01/the-interdental-brush-invading-somewhere-sensitive/


Again, he was completely secured to the bed last night for three hours. I had him wearing his straight jacket and I secured his head gear to the bed head, along with his ankles to the bed which are in cuffs, and wearing a gag, blindfold and ear plugs too.

http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/2011/12/14/more-sensory-deprivation/


He was in the bondage for over 4 hours. I visited him about 6 times and I have never been so mean... 
 I had 6 orgasms in all on Sunday and they were all massive! There is no doubt the intensity is directly proportional to how mean I am

http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/2013/11/26/the-big-6-o/


Soon enough he found himself bound legs wide apart, at ankle and knee, head strapped into place, silicone ear plugs, funnel gag, blindfold, straightjacket and baby video monitor. And there he stayed for 5 hours. Before the gag was fixed in place I did queen him for some lovely worship of my most secret places. (twice).

http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/2012/03/07/yet-more-tsd-bondage/

Yesterday's Edge

I edged yesterday to a blog post I didn't expect would have any edging material.  The blog post was a back and forth bewtween 2 Mistresses.  One is currently in a D/s relationship, the one asking for advice was back in one with her husband after a long break.  She was asking for advice to get back to where they were (or more).  Here are some of the quotes that spoke to me (link to full post at the bottom).  While extreme, it was very, very hot.  Another possible "be careful what you wish for".

One question that I have for you is about the section in the book that refers to slave vs slave husband and the disconnect one must have in order to maintain the dynamic. I believe this really is my issue! I love my husband and think of him as my partner and anchor. Do you find that in your relationship with your slave that you have to disconnect from the love you feel for him as a husband? any tips on your end to achieve this disconnect?

My bitch-boy is submissive at his core. It is fundamental that I know that, although I subject him to things he really, really hates at the time they are happening, and his life is controlled, denying him many freedoms – the result is that the more I treat him this way, the more soundly he sleeps, the more contented he is during all our vanilla moments. And the worse I treat him, the more he obviously worships me. 

Yes I do shut off the dynamic and do some relaxing things together like watch TV and sleep in the same bed, discuss work problems, etc. However, even in these times he absolutely knows that I see him as my pet, my toy, my slave, my property – to do with as I wish. In the times in question, I wish for the dynamic to be off and he knows that it will be switched back on at my whim when I choose. And there is nothing he can do about it. (Except deal with it as best he can.)

However.. after reading your blog, talking with you and reading Ingrid’s book I am changing! After that first day of training and behavioral modification i felt this amazing power that I really have never felt before. last night when I had him restrained in his sleepsack and was punishing his cock with the icy hot and crop i felt even more power and his whimpering made me explode! I have never experienced orgasms quite like last night.. it was mind blowing!

A submissive will test you from time to time and this may have been a test. I believe they want things to happen that they genuinely do not like, because it proves to them that they are truly helpless and controlled.

My orgasms are huge! Its such a delight. I am not sure why. I think the fact that I accept completely that I am a cruel, heartless, sadistic bitch and that I can do whatever I want to my human toy liberates me to be both relaxed and cruel and decadent. I am not sure really.

The rest of the trip needless to say his behavior was exceptional !! Did I mentioned he was tied to that toilet for 5 hours :-)

I am not sure I am an expert but I can give you the benefit of my experience. I started by making bitch-boy (bb) wear woman’s pink knickers all the time. 100% Cotton so that he did not get all sweaty and nasty. My next step was an amazingly frilly pair of cream and pink knickers from a Sissy Adult website, to wear around the house on display when serving me. His utter shame and humiliation over these motivated me to go much further. Choices included French maid, School girl, little girl. I started with French maid.

bitch-boy is in for a very tough weekend today and tomorrow. He will be used and abused, humiliated and painfully hurt and he will be waiting on me hand and foot (when he isn’t helplessly bound!). I will let you know more next week. I had a working at home day in the week just gone. He went through a very tough time for 10 hours. I did not even release his little cock from its restraint tube. My orgasms were huge! He was very subdued by bedtime  which was very sweet.

http://msscarletuk.wordpress.com/advice/

Today's edge

I edges for just a couple minutes this morning.  I planned edge the full 10 minutes later, so my whole day was thinking about what I could egde to later.  While I was working out the dungeon was 10 feet away.  My mind kept drifting to thoughts of the dungeon.  The only thing I could think of was a good long beating.  My mind was drifting to the thought of a cathartic beating.  One that would hurt like hell, but would release an enormous amount of endorphins.  Then I thought about another way Mistress could hurt me without me being face down.  I have recently been thinking of being tied up on the bed in my normal spread-eagle position.  One difference this time is I would have tied my balls into a tight package.  There would be a loop that Mistress could hook to one of the bondage straps at the bottom of the bed in the middle.  She could then pull the tightening strap to anchor me to the bottom of the bed.  This tight package of testicles could then be tortured with little effort.  Having the balls tied up makes them much more sensitive as well keeping them immobile and under pressure.  Instead of a hard slap, a small flick or tap would be 10-50 times more powerful.  Consecutive light tapping quickly ramps up to excruciating pain, and since it is a light hit, damage is rare. There is also the benefit that if my bod is writhing and struggling, my balls would stay in just one place.  Stupid libido.

Severe

As I become more comfortable in accepting my submission and letting go of control, I can't help but think of the more severe aspects of D/s.  Some of the pictures I have seen online recently have really grabbed my attention.  Some of the pictures below scare the shit out of me, but at the same time I wish I was in them.  This is what I edged to this morning.

This 1st video is over 40 minutes long.  It is the type of caning I want to try sometime.  It's long, it looks insanely painful at times, but she really works with him to get him through it.  I would LOVE to be as bruised as he is at the end.  I can only imagine how wet my Mistress would get.  I edited it from the original 40+ minutes to something shorter to give an idea.

Original video here http://femdom-fetish-tube.com/video/3669/catarina.html

Edited version below.

Here are some other severe things I know I would hate at the time, but would reminisce about later.  I arranged the pictures below form most scariest to least scariest.

He is begging her not to shock his nipple with a stun gun.

Holy fuck that would hurt

Probably not as bad as the whippings below, but electricity scares the fuck out of me

Double shock, in chastity

Ow, ow, ow, ow

Disorienting

Pretty damn painful with little bits of skin

 Nice Marks.  

That's gotta suck.  

I don't know how to explain how this turns me on but it does.  

Today's Edge - Repeats

Today's edge had me thinking about a couple old articles I read some time ago.  I'm fairly certain I have shared them with MBB before.  These have a huge effect on my mind.

From the book "Female Domination":

Occasionally my husband will require correction. Lately we have been using a technique called Riding the Horse and I learned about it on the Internet. The horse is basically a bench with a beam. The idea is that he is made to stand with his male sexual organs resting on a pointed, but not actually sharp, wooden board as he straddles the beam. The board is just a little too high, so that having both feet flat on the floor is just too painful. His hands are usually handcuffed behind him and attached to the ceiling by rope, forcing his body to lean slightly forward, which exposes primarily the perineum and his organs to the pointed beam. Time becomes the big enemy, since eventually his leg muscles tire and he must adjust positions to relieve the stress.  But that just causes new stress and pressure, so there needs to be another shift, and so on. It creates a downward spiral where shifting becomes more and more frequent. All the while his organs are being raked across the pointed beam.

When he gets to the point where he is shifting continuously, he is now properly Riding the Horse.  It usually requires just under an hour for him to get to that point and during that build up time we have some very productive discussions. Once he is fully Riding, it becomes impossible to have a coherent conversation since his mind is pretty much occupied.  Sometimes I have him wear high heels, which both increases his discomfort, and makes a really great sound. The time he is made to ride depends upon the infraction being corrected. The pain level is obviously intense which is, of course, the point. A session on the Horse makes him very penitent.

By the way, I recently began introducing him to the idea of cuckolding. He put up a bit of fuss (for him) at first, but a session on the Horse can be very persuasive. The great thing about the Horse is that it requires hardly any effort from me. Time and weight, physics if you will, do all the work. In fact, the only effort required from me is to make it stop, and I have all the time it takes. We also use other punishments, but the Horse is fast becoming my preferred correction instrument.

How to make the Horse:

The horse is SUCH a wonderful addition for any female dominant household! In its simplest form, the "horse" is basically a sturdy saw horse with a pointed cross beam. Please share the photos with whomever you wish.

As for where ours came from, we adapted it from an existing saw horse -- which is useful for so many household projects. Our saw horse is very sturdy -- not one of those collapsible kind that some people have. All we added to this were uprights at either end, made from 1"x4" wood screwed deeply (at least 1.5" screws) into the horse. The cross beam was cut from a 1"x6" (I think) piece of wood using an angled blade on the table saw. It is a couple of feet long. The angle itself is about 30 degrees and is sanded just enough to remove splinters, but it is still rough. The cross beam is attached to the added upright pieces also with long screws.

The height is by trial and error. It must be high enough to ensure that at least one barefooted heel is off the ground at all times. (If you require the man to wear 5" high spikey heels, as I sometimes do, then
both heel points can rest on the ground. The pressure on his feet and calves should be enough to soon get him squirming. I add blocks of wood under the saw horse to make up the additional needed height). I believe that it is best if the "rider's" feet are about shoulder width apart. Our horse has rails near the bottom for this purpose, and to use as a tie point for the ankles. An ankle spreader would work just as well. Fasten his hands behind his back or in the front to his collar, or to a ceiling rope. Either way, you must ensure that he cannot use his hands or arm strength to relieve any of the pressure from the cross beam. It is that pressure, and the eventual need to shift it from one contact point to another, that will do the work.

The "horse" may not seem like it is doing anything at all for the first many minutes. But just give it time. He should be going clipity-clopity within an hour or so. Your experience may vary. A blindfold will also "enhance" his experience.

From Janet W:

Dear Elise, I wanted to share with you and your readers, especially the women, that technology can greatly assist a woman as she dominates her husband. I know some women complain that D&S is too time consuming and that men need too much domination in the bedroom in order for them to be obedient outside the bedroom. That is where technology and the use of gadgets can greatly help.

One example is strap-on play. There are devices available over the internet or at fetish shows known as “Fucking machines”. There are different types from hand held devices to elaborate machines. We have one that runs by motor and it has different stroke settings. Now I like strap-on play and we still do it the old way but sometimes I want to dominate my husband without having to go through the physically demanding workout of strap-on play. I want to use strap-on play as a discipline and the machine can go longer and harder than I can.

I will make my husband get naked on the bed and I will bind him in the desired position, either bent over something or on his back with his ankles fastened to the bed canopy post. I will use my fingers to lubricate him and then I will position the machine so that the dildo is against his anus. I guide the dildo into him and once I am sure it is in the proper position, I turn on the machine and it will fuck him for as long as I want.

If it is a D&S session, I might straddle his face and have him pleasure me or I might utilize other implements like whips and what not while he is being fucked by the machine. But there are many times the machine does all the work as I just observe. I do not leave him unattended but I might talk on the phone while I sit on his face or I might just sit there and read or I might just observe. It is easy on me and I love it when he gets to that place where he begs me to stop the machine. I can adjust the RPM and make it faster and more intense.

I can also control it with a remote control. I love to get him to the edge of orgasm and then turn it off. Then I will wait a minute or two and turn it back on. I can go back and forth like this which really drives him crazy. I can also get him to where he agrees to about anything I want. The fucking machine is great for both rewarding and disciplining a man.

Another device I like to use is a remote control cock ring that transmits electrical shocks. I can discipline my husband while he is doing chores or while he is pleasuring me by shocking his genitals at the touch of a button.

We had a spanking machine. It was a motorized device that swung a paddle and I could set the frequency and the harshness of the paddle. I could paddle him long and hard without ever getting out of my chair. Unfortunately that device broke and we have yet to fix it.

My point is that it is possible to discipline a man and have D&S sessions with a man without exerting much energy. Technology makes that possible and there are more and more devices being invented all the time. A woman can lay back and have her slave orally pleasure her and with a remote control she can spank him, fuck him, shock him, administer an enema (we did this before with a timed device that released the pre-determined amount of water in an enema bag into the enema nozzle that was inserted in his rectum), or whatever the imagination can come up with.

Today's Edge - Shocking

I don't know what is going on with me this week.  All of my fantasies this week have been on the edge of what I actually like.  Today is no different.  I edged to the thoughts of electricity play.  I imagined a few different scenarios.

• Tied down with an electric butt plug in, and pads attached to my cock and balls. MBB would then set the Erostek to a setting and hit the "ramp up" button.  She would then adjust it so at the bottom of the ramp I am feeling uncomfortable and then she would sit back and watch it go from 70% to 100% while I struggle.  I imagine her masturbating and squirting while watching me struggle reminding me I asked for it.

• We also have a shocking dog collar that goes around the balls.  I recently read a story where a woman tied up her man in a way he could masturbate.  She made him stroke and she would give him random shocks.  The goal for her was to keep him from cumming and the goal for him was to cum.  I imagine the shocks would make it hard to get to the edge, but once at the edge the shocks would push me over.  The other variation on this was she would use a leather strap and spank him trying to accomplish the same goal.

• I also imagine wearing the shocking dog collar and made to masturbate to orgasm or have sex to orgasm.  Once the orgasm was complete MBB would give me 10 seconds to start cleaning up the mess with my tongue or I would get shocked.  Out of all my cum eating fantasies this would be the worse, because I would have to choose to do it.  

• Lastly we have a toy called a Tazapper.  It's like a mini cattle prod, and in the scheme of things not very strong, but for some reason it puts the fear of Goddess in me.  I does hurt, and can actually hurt quite a bit, but I think it's the loud noise and the visual shock it makes that makes it so scary.  I actually go between teary from fear and anger when this toy is used.  Fight or flight really.  I imagine her just mind fucking me with it, all the while giggling.  Making me admit to nasty things and agree to just about anything to make the torment stop.  

Today's Edge - Vacuum Bed

This morning I edge to the thought of being in our vacuum bed.  The vacuum bed is unique in that you aren't tied up, but you can't move a muscle either.  I imagine it would be like being drugged so you can't move a muscle, but you are aware of everything.  I fantasized about tying my balls in a neat little package before getting in the bed.  I would then get in and position my legs tight together with my balls on top of my thighs.  My hands would be at my side and slightly under me to keep my body weight on them and to keep my profile thinner.  MBB would then turn on the bed and let it crush me before turning it off (our bed holds air very well so a vacuum doesn't need to keep running).  She would then block off my breathing with a finger on the air tube and make me squirm for air.  She might take a drink of wine and spit some down the breathing tube for me to drink.  I then fantasized about her smacking me in the balls and there would be nothing I could do about it.  I also thought about her using the Venus 2000 on me to tease me, but realized that wouldn't work for my final nasty thought.  I thought about MBB either putting a condom on my cock, and then she would ride my cock until I came inside her.  Then I would hear her next idea.  She would tell me she is going to scoop all of my cum out of her pussy and feed it to me down the tube.  There would be nothing I could do to stop it.  I also imagined her getting me to cum in a condom and feeding that to me down the tube.  I would be so pissed off, but for some reason that idea gets me so hot.

Today's Edge - Helpless

I haven't been able to edge as much lately, but did today.  This had me thinking about the helplessness of his situation.  I am not sure why being completely helpless makes me so hot.