Thursday, January 14, 2016

Teasing, Denial and Forced Statements

For the last day or so I cannot get the thought of a teasing session out of my mind.  Mistress is a master at being able to edge me over and over and I can't get those thoughts out of my head.  My current fantasy goes something like this...

Mistress tells me to go take a shower and to pay special attention to my cock cage.  As I shower she gets our bed ready.  I get out and she has some transsexual or gay porn playing on the TV in our room.  She has my put on my restraints as well as a black leather collar.  She ties me to the bed so I can't move.  She starts by kissing and licking and touching every part of my body and completely ignores my cock that is now straining to get out of it's cage.  She pays extra attention to my nipples, so much so that I am begging her to stop as they are over stimulated.  Mistress keeps telling me of her fantasy of seeing me with a man.  She tells me that for me to be unlocked she wants to hear me say what I "think" I could do with a man.  She makes me repeat it several times to get her to leave my nipples alone and then she gets up and leaves the room.

I am tied to our bed, thinking about what she got me to say while there is porn that is not my kind of porn playing on the TV.  Mistress comes back into the room and starts to unlock my device.  She tells me that my eyes are to remain on the TV screen no matter what.  If my eyes move from the screen she will punch my balls.  After a couple turns of the screw she tells me to repeat what I said earlier.  I repeat it.  She removes the device and proceeds to bring to the edge a few times.  Mistress uses the Hitachi to get herself off while letting my cock recover from the edges.  She edges me a few more times while talking about how she plans on making me be with a guy.

She then pulls the large squirting dildo out of the drawer and holds it in front my my face.  I look at it and get a swift hit to the balls for taking my eyes off the TV screen.  She tells me to open my mouth, I do and she interests the cock in my mouth.  She tells me to hold it there and if it comes out my balls will take another beating.  Mistress then strokes my cock until I let her know I am close cumming.  She stops stroking my cock and starts deep throating me with the dildo.  I am choking on the cock and tears are streaming down the corners of my eyes.  I quickly come down from the edge due to the mouth fucking and Mistress leaves the cock in my mouth while she edges me again.  This repeats several times along with Mistress getting herself of many times.  She again leaves the bedroom with me watching porn and a dildo sitting in my mouth.

After a short while Mistress comes back in the room and takes a picture of me with the cock in my mouth and the TV screen very visible in the picture.  She starts stroking my cock until I get to the edge.  She takes the dildo and tells me to repeat after her.  For the next 30 minutes she makes me repeat over and over what she wants me to do with a guy.  She edges me time and again while making me repeat it with my eyes on the screen.  Once she is satisfied that this session has had a mental impact on me she unties me and tells me to put my device back on.  I then spend the next few days humiliated and turned on at the same time about all the things Mistress made me contemplate.  Mistress texts that picture of me sucking cock to my phone whenever she wants to make me blush.  When she does, my cock throbs in its cage.

Here is a post I recently found about T&D that I found particularity hot.

Ms. Rika’s Tips for Tease and Denial:

Quoted from Ms. Rika, accomplished author:

T&D is one of my favorite playtime activities :) Here are a few tips:

  • I don’t tell him I’m going to tease him…I just do it.
  • I don’t say, “I’m not going to let you come”. Rather I say, “Maybe this time…” Keep him hoping. The more he thinks that THIS TIME he gets to come the better - the spin off is all about making him think he’s going to get off and then suddenly, stimulation stops and he’s left hanging on
  • If I want him to do something humiliating, I tell him to do it early - before I tease him in earnest. Hopefully, he’ll refuse. Then it becomes a challenge to get him to change his mind - which he will.
  • When I do get that challenge, then I can take it to the next level. Using your example: If I want him to lick my ass, and he refuses at first - then after an hour of repeated denials, he says he’ll do it - I’ll tease him a few more times until he’s literally begging me to let him do it. I might tell him that his begging isn’t sincere enough and tease him again. Then I might let him do it - then tell him he did a good job so he can come…and STILL not let him come.
  • Which brings up the next point, as a rule, you don’t need to be fair. The situation is not fair. You are totally in control and being “not fair” is one way to demonstrate it. You can lie. You can tell him that he’s going to get to come and then not let him. You can deliberately confuse him. You can do whatever you want to him and he will let you…because ultimately, you and only you will decide if and when that orgasm comes. Pushy victims might just suffer longer! He might suffer longer just because you feel like it. Tough!
  • I never feel like a T&D session has to end - I can PAUSE a session - untie him, go about my day and then pick up later in the evening and start all over again - or even the next day. The impact of a good T&D session lasts…it’s a cumulative thing. If you tease and deny him over several days, the tension will continue to build up and the ultimate release will be that much sweeter.
  • I personally don’t like the number system. I feel it gives him in too much control. I use a “beg me not to let you come” system with a failsafe. Rather than him begging to come, I tell him I want him to beg me to stop - when he’s getting close. Personally, I love the irony of him screaming, “Please stop, I’m going to come” and me saying, “OK…” :) But here’s the trick - if I choose to NOT stop, he has to come within 5 seconds - or he will not get to come at all. This way, he will not be able to cheat. He has to be REALLY close before he asks me to stop - Realize though, that this means, sometimes, you have to not stop when he begs you to stop. Sometimes you need to let him come. You have to keep him honest - which means that some sessions will be quick, because you let him get off earlier than he may have expected. It’s a payment up front for more fun later.
  • Lube is your friend. A lot of lube will make him so slippery that your motions won’t create as much stimulation. As the lube wears down, you’ll see him start to feel it more and you know you’re creating that build up.
  • Read up on “polishing the apple” aka “palming the knob” - a great technique for prolonging his orgasm while keeping him stimulated. A word of advice, I have found that lube is NOT your friend for this technique - the drier your palm, with just a little moisture, the more intense the stimulation seems to be. The more intense the stimulation, the “worse” his experience will be! :)
  • I make a point to stop every once in a while. I’ll let him recover a little before stimulating him again. I blow on his penis, I’ll let him eat me for a while. I take my time.
  • I am aware of the “power of three”. I mention this in my first book - we are accustomed in our lifestyle to things in threes: 1-2-3, a-b-c, red-yellow-green, ready-set-go, win-place-show, etc. The natural tendency is to deny twice and allow to come on the third try. I’m aware of these tendencies and try to avoid them. Or, I use them to my advantage by playing on his natural feeling that the “third time’s a charm”…but it isn’t.
  • Last thought: I’ll create a fun situation where he’s begging me to stop, so he’s really close - and I’ll say, “Go ahead…Come”, but I’ll remove all stimulation. If I time it right, he won’t have reached the point of no return - and without stimulation, he won’t be able to get off. Then, I can either say, “Maybe you don’t want to come? I told you to come!” and decide to put it off to another day - or just let him beg some more to get me to start again :)

T&D is SO much fun…I hope this list gives you some good ideas!
- Rika


1 comment:

  1. Ms. Rika really knows what She is doing, doesn't She? ;)
    That conditioning you had sounds pretty embarrassing... but with teasing, eventually anything She wants to do, will happen. Good luck! sara